When the person you love isn’t there anymore?

When the person you call for back up is gone?

When you reach out but can no longer touch them?

When you ask questions out loud but there is no response back?

When you realize you can’t remember how their voice sounded?

When their scent no longer lingers on the few pieces of their clothing you held onto?

When you remember to change your emergency contact information?

Well what happens is a lot of things. A lot of sadness, a lot of realizations, a lot of growing, a lot of learning.

But most of all a lot of forgiveness. Forgiveness of yourself, of them, of words said and of words unsaid.

What happens is life goes on. It goes on in small ways and in big ways. It goes on in quiet ways, and in loud spectacular ways.

What happens is a piece of you dies with them in that hospital room. So you likely won’t ever feel whole again but you are also ok because you know where that missing piece went.

You’ll still talk to them and the way they respond will be something only you see.

You’ll find comfort in things that once made you uncomfortable.

What happens is you’ll be ok… different but ok 🩷